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During the past few months — since Trump got elected — I’ve become more judgmental and less trusting. Cottage cheese ricotta lasagna Now it’s true that due to being a victim of narcissistic abuse and suffering from several disorders and C-PTSD due to the abuse I endured, I’ve always been suspicious and hypervigilant of others’ intentions, always assuming the worst, or that they have some hidden agenda. Using cottage cheese instead of ricotta in lasagna My motto has always been, “if you think the worst will happen, you will never be disappointed and your heart will never be broken.


Can you use cottage cheese instead of ricotta in lasagna If the worst does happen, you won’t be devastated because you will have expected it.” It seemed foolhardy, even stupid, to be an optimist or expect the best from others. Cottage cheese vs ricotta lasagna Emotionally, I couldn’t do it anyway.

But that’s a rotten way to live and certainly not a recipe for happiness or even contentment. How to make lasagna without cottage cheese You walk through life being paranoid and suspicious of everyone all the time, always wondering what others are planning to do to hurt you. Recipe for lasagna without cottage cheese You can never attain any semblance of happiness with a mindset like that.

Since I’ve been blogging and been in therapy, and since I’ve become a Christian, this had been improving. Recipe for lasagna with cottage cheese and spinach I was feeling happier, trusting others a little more, and not always assuming everyone had a knife hidden behind their back. Recipe for lasagna with cottage cheese and ricotta cheese I was beginning to find what I think God’s purpose for me is. Recipe for lasagna without ricotta or cottage cheese I noticed that people were actually treating me better, fewer negative things were happening, and best of all, more positive things were happening. Vegetarian lasagna with cottage cheese recipe Changing my mindset to a more positive, hopeful one did indeed seem to attract even more positive things in my life. Chicken lasagna recipe with cottage cheese I realized that while it’s perfectly normal and even desirable to acknowledge and express “negative” emotions, that walking around with a perpetual black thunderhead hanging over my head wasn’t helping me or anyone else. How to make easy lasagna with cottage cheese It was a defense mechanism that worked in its way, but was never going to allow me to be happy.

Trump got elected just as my SAD was kicking in, and the combination of the two sent me into a depression that seemed as bad as those I had when I was still married to my abusive husband. Easy homemade lasagna recipe with cottage cheese It got even worse since his inauguration, and the ensuing (and immediate) shitstorm of chaos and fear-mongering that seems to have been unleashed since January 20. Turkey lasagna recipe with cottage cheese It was so triggering for me that I began to distrust almost everyone again, no matter if they were on the right or the left. Lasagna without ricotta or cottage cheese recipes It seemed as if there were no good people left in the world, and the world itself was going insane. Crock pot lasagna with cottage cheese recipe After all, how could a good person vote for such a leader, and yet, here he was. Lasagna made with cottage cheese and ricotta cheese Somehow, evil appeared to have won. How to make a lasagna with cottage cheese I’ve been scanning the news every day like a meerkat scanning the horizon for predators.

But even worse, I’ve become judgmental. Lasagna with cottage cheese recipe I never used to judge others for their political or religious beliefs, even if I disagreed with them. Recipe for lasagna with cottage cheese I always believed that people have a right to believe what they believe, for whatever reason, and just because I disagreed with them doesn’t mean they are inherently bad people. Lasagna made with cottage cheese But lately, I’ve been adopting a hateful belief that all Trump supporters must be horrible people. Easy lasagna with cottage cheese This is unlike me, and I knew judging others this way was wrong, but I couldn’t help it. Lasagna with cottage cheese and ricotta If someone was an asshole to me, even if they were just a driver acting like an asshole on the road, I’d say to myself dismissively, “they must be a Trump supporter.” To my way of thinking, anyone who voted for Trump had to be a “bad person.” Even though I knew several Trump supporters who are actually very kind people, I couldn’t seem to shake the judgmental thinking and stereotyping of Trump supporters as being a bunch of “deplorables.”

Today I was working in the home of an older retired couple who I knew had voted for Trump. Lasagna with ricotta and cottage cheese They listen to Rush Limbaugh and have a “Make America Great Again” bumper sticker on their SUV. Meat lasagna with cottage cheese I also knew these were very nice people. Lasagna recipe with cottage cheese The wife, Doris, always has homemade baked goodies, and they always tip. Making lasagna with cottage cheese Both are extremely friendly and just seem like good, salt of the earth people. Recipe lasagna with cottage cheese Okay, so I knew intellectually that Trump supporters weren’t all asshats, but I couldn’t accept this on an emotional level. Can you make lasagna with cottage cheese I also haven’t been able to accept on an emotional level that there are ANY really good people left in this country.

Today they proved me wrong on both. Lasagna recipe made with cottage cheese The husband, Alan, started asking me questions about my car and then went out to look at it. Spinach lasagna with cottage cheese I thought it was a little odd, but maybe he was just a car buff and curious about my car.

He came back inside and said, “Your tires look like shit.” He knew I was driving to Florida in a few weeks. Lasagna with cottage cheese and spinach Somehow I felt on the defensive. Lasagna with cottage cheese and spaghetti sauce I started to explain I intended to get new tires before my road trip, but he interrupted me. Best lasagna with cottage cheese “I want to buy you a new set of tires. Easy lasagna with cottage cheese recipe There’s a tire shop down the road.” Whoa, what? I stood there, my mouth hanging open like a dimwit.

“I want to and I will,” Alan said. Lasagna with spinach and cottage cheese That was final. Beef lasagna with cottage cheese He wasn’t giving me a choice. Lasagna with spaghetti sauce and cottage cheese “Wait here a few minutes, it’s just down the road.”

I gave Alan my car keys. How to make lasagna with cottage cheese I was in shock. Lasagna layers with cottage cheese I felt like I should offer to pay him back or something, but he wasn’t having it.

When he got back from dropping off the car, Doris and Alan invited me into the kitchen where we sat down and had some cake she had baked and some Cokes. Lasagna with ricotta cheese and cottage cheese Alan started talking about God. Vegetarian lasagna with cottage cheese It turned out he’s actually agnostic. Lasagna with cottage and ricotta cheese He said, “I don’t know if God exists or not, but if He does, then He works through people helping others. No bake lasagna with cottage cheese I want you to understand why I did this today. Easy spinach lasagna with cottage cheese Doris and I never had children, and we are retired and comfortable. Layering lasagna with cottage cheese We’re not going to take all this with us when we die, so we like to help our friends and neighbors when we can.”

Driving home on my four brand new tires, I realized in my heart and not just in my mind, that angels can be found in the most unexpected places. Lasagna with cottage cheese and cream cheese There are genuinely good and even altruistic people left in the world after all, and yes, some of them are even Trump supporters!

We should never judge the hearts of individuals, regardless of their beliefs. Lasagna with cottage cheese and ricotta cheese We are all brothers and sisters under God.

This blog is my journal. Easy lasagna recipe with cottage cheese I just choose to share it with the world instead of keeping everything inside my head.

I’m a recovering Borderline and have also struggled with Avoidant Personality Disorder. Spaghetti lasagna with cottage cheese I also have Complex PTSD due to having been the victim of narcissistic abuse for most of my life.

I write mostly about narcissism, because I was the child of a narcissistic mother, and then married to a sociopathic malignant narcissist for 20 years. Lasagna with spinach and cottage cheese recipe But there’s a silver lining too. Lasagna with cream cheese and cottage cheese In some ways they taught me about myself. Meat lasagna with spinach and cottage cheese This blog is about all that.

Not all my articles will be about NPD, BPD or other personality disorders or mental conditions. Healthy lasagna with cottage cheese I pretty much write about whatever’s on my mind at the moment. Egg noodle lasagna with cottage cheese So there’s something for everyone here.

Blogging about stuff is crack for my soul. Lasagna filling with ricotta and cottage cheese It’s self therapy, and hopefully my insights and observations may help others too.

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I have a tendency to suspect people who are just “guilty” of not thinking things out as deeply as I do, of being guilty of something far worse. Lasagna with cottage cheese spinach and beef It is very hard for me to believe that I am somehow more privy to discerning certain situations or more capable of critical thinking than any other individual.

I too struggle with accepting that seemingly intelligent people have supported Trump, because doesn’t that mean that his shade of sadism and contempt for the weak and vulnerable was not a deal breaker for them?

A humbling reminder to me is that I too was once brainwashed in a sense by my own mother, and being brainwashed is not necessarily a sign of evil intent, or having sold one’s soul. One pot lasagna with cottage cheese I excused and turned a blind eye to all of my mother’s underlying hostility, when I needed her as a mother.

For some who supported Trump I believe they are just the long suffering, who are not yet brave enough to wake up from their cognitive dissonance. Simple lasagna recipe with cottage cheese To wake them up when they are not ready can result in them turning against us. Lasagna with cottage cheese recipe easy I still say good friends tell each other the truth, but not in a personally judgemental way.

I’ve always said, cognitive dissonance is a powerful thing. Ingredients for lasagna with cottage cheese I also think many vulnerable people (the poor or uneducated, etc) actually believe Trump’s lies. How to make lasagna with cottage cheese and meat They only watch Fox News because it reinforces the beliefs they have been brainwashed into, which further reinforces those beliefs. Homemade lasagna with cottage cheese What’s so maddening is their refusal to acknowledge the truth even when the facts are right in their face, but like you said, we often did the same thing with our abusers. Lasagna recipe with cottage cheese and ricotta Many people cope by identifying with the abuser — also known as Stockholm Syndrome. Prego lasagna recipe with cottage cheese Those who will be most hurt by Trump’s policies, especially the “replacement” to the ACA — are, guess what! The red state poor who work at low paying jobs with no health insurance. No boil lasagna with cottage cheese Maybe it will take that to get them to wake them up and get them to resolve their cognitive dissonance. Classic lasagna recipe with cottage cheese Hopefully this healthcare bill won’t be passed because I cannot afford insurance if I lose my ACA (my job does not provide healthcare) and I did NOT vote for him.

I am glad you brought up Stockholm Syndrome. Basic lasagna recipe with cottage cheese But this is also a societal example of the long abused in a double bind choosing narcissistic behavior themselves (or justifying it in Trump) to deal with and cope with with what they feel was a long suffering and abusive situation.

It is interesting to me how history cycles through equally erroneous opposite extremes over and over again, as if human nature is to swing back in reaction, rather than become self aware of itself.

Perhaps this can be compared to a bipolar patient unable to resist the high after the low.

For example, I believe it is true that the “religious right” was disproportionately negatively stereotyped and ill treated by much of the media and those in the liberal “elite”. Best lasagna recipe with cottage cheese They therefore latched onto an equally or more abusive “savior” in Trump to save them, and cannot seem to discern (or dissociate from) his abuse of the very principles on which most religions are founded.

It is probably true that Trump supporters are not all bad peolpe.

But they must be really confused which sadly a lot of people are these days.

Prsonally I can’t imagine a decent good hearted person in their right mind voting for someone like this.

There must be something like cognitive dissonance or the like going on.

I can’t either, unless they have just been brainwashed and/or are stupid. Lasagna recipe with ricotta and cottage cheese Since these folks I know aren’t stupid and are obviously good people, they must just be brainwashed or uninformed. Lasagna recipe with cottage cheese and ground beef Cognitive dissonance has much to do with it too. How to make lasagna with cottage cheese and ground beef It’s very hard to give up a belief and admit you were wrong, it seems.

I know someone who voted for Trump and at this point she’s mortified. Beef lasagna recipe with cottage cheese And she’s not alone. Good lasagna recipe with cottage cheese And then there are those who will stick by his side till they’re dead because they won’t want to admit that they might have been wrong. Lasagna recipe with cottage cheese and meat And then there are those who are willing to overlook the bullshit he spews because they think he’ll do a better job on jobs. How do you make lasagna with cottage cheese I think that the only thing we can really do is just deal with the policies as quickly as we can, and try to ignore the periodic shitstorms he kicks up. Meat lasagna recipe with cottage cheese At least, that’s the way I’m trying to deal. Lasagna made with cottage cheese instead of ricotta I think if I dealt with everything that comes around from him I’d end up in the damn mental hospital again.

I haven’t met too many Trump supporters who regret it like your friend did, but I know there’s a website and a Facebook and Twitter account called “Trump Regrets.” So I know they exist. How to layer lasagna with cottage cheese I just haven’t met any. Lasagna with no boil noodles and cottage cheese All the people I know who voted for Trump still stick by him.

Love this! “if you think the worst will happen, you will never be disappointed and your heart will never be broken. Kraft lasagna recipe with cottage cheese If the worst does happen, you won’t be devastated because you will have expected it.” This is exactly how I have spent most of my life thinking. Lasagna recipe with cottage cheese and spinach In many cases it has saved me, so I won’t say it’s all bad. Easy lasagna recipe with ricotta cheese no cottage cheese But sometimes it does backfire and cause me to get stuck in a loop of worst case scenario thinking. Lasagna with cottage cheese and sour cream That takes away from my ability to be in the moment and enjoy life.

I think it’s wonderful that they did that for you! How incredibly kind. Easy homemade lasagna with cottage cheese We need to start building bridges with the other side, or our democracy is done. Quick lasagna recipe with cottage cheese We can only take so much of this divide, and gridlock, before our government (and country) falls apart. Turkey lasagna with cottage cheese Stuff like this is the answer.

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